I just read a post from @itsbrookelynne and WOAH, it felt like she had been living in my brain for the past few weeks.
I have had ALL-consuming thoughts of harm coming to my children. I mean, obsessive, repetitive scenarios running through my head of all the ways I could not be watching for even a moment and something happen, or not doing the right things while I’m pregnant and harming my baby, gosh the list goes on. When I tell you it has kept me up at night, I mean that literally.
People will tell you that getting married young is a mistake. They’ll tell you it’ll keep you from accomplishing your goals, that you won’t be able to travel, that your spouse will hold you back from your career, that you aren’t old enough to make those kinds of lifelong decisions...etc. etc. etc.
Read MoreI’m going to dive into pretty much the most controversial topic in marriage, which is the biblical idea of being a submissive wife.
Read MoreThis one is going to feel random to some, but to others I think it will rock you a little.
I want to talk about past hurt that can affect your marriage. And I’m speaking on this from firsthand experience. I want to talk about just how much it negatively impacted my relationship with Nick and how I had to change.
I’m here to tackle yet another controversial topic...sex before marriage 😬
Yep. We are going there.
I’m choosing a slightly less controversial topic (HA) but nonetheless an important one!
Let’s chat about respect in a marriage. And I know that initially sounds really vague, but I’m going to get into some nitty gritty stuff that ends up being a big deal over time.
Have you ever been in a group of men or women and the conversation turns to complaining/gossiping about everyone’s spouse? I’ve been there a million times over. It always makes me super uncomfortable because whenever it becomes “my turn” to throw jabs, I really have nothing but good things to say about Nick. And boy is that a damper in these situations 🥴
This was really the most requested topic from you all, and many of you were asking from different perspectives. So I want to dive in from MY perspective, and how having our first daughter changed us.
But before I share our experience, I want to share something @johnstephenpiper said in an article Nick sent me today:
Piper talks about how “the goal of life is not to avoid hardship.” Whew. If that doesn’t stop you in your tracks to re-evaluate your mindset then I don’t know what will. He explains that we don’t know if we will have disabled children, we don’t know if they will live a long life or die too soon, we just don’t KNOW. There is no handbook to prepare you for your fate. BUT, Piper says “From the standpoint of God’s word, none of those possible heartaches and none of these guaranteed stresses are reasons not to have children, because the Bible does not share the modern viewpoint that the aim of life is the avoidance of hardship...”
As @legitsadierob would say, “Woah, that’s good.”
