Purity while you wait. Why is it so important?

I’m here to tackle yet another controversial topic...sex before marriage 😬

Yep. We are going there.

Let’s start with scripture, since that is where we should always go for guidance as Christians.

“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. - Hebrews 13:4

1 Corinthians 12:20 (give it a read)
1 Corinthians 7:2
Mark 10:6-9

The list goes on. God is clear in scripture that sex between a man and a woman is only sinless within the bounds of a non-abusive, loving marriage. All other forms of lust and sexual acts are sin outside of this covenant.

Now, let’s tackle the elephant in the room: what if you’ve already had sex, lustful thoughts, or done any other sinful acts before marriage?

Remember Romans 6? If not, man go read it again. Such good stuff. It reminds us that we are DEAD to sin and ALIVE to God. We have been set free from sin through the death and resurrection of Christ! Verse 15 says, “What then? Are we to sin because we are not under law but under grace? By no means!” We may have failed in the past, even as Christians, but we should NOT continue in that sin because God gives grace and forgives! The convicting power of the Holy Spirit guides us and urges our hearts away from what is sinful.

If you’re going into marriage having already messed up, you are NOT flawed or unclean. If you’ve asked for forgiveness with a sincere heart, you have received that grace! But it is up to you and your future husband/wife to set CLEAR and STRICT boundaries before marriage.

Sex was intended for marriage because it is a beautiful thing that takes ultimate trust and love to be the most enjoyable. There is no sexual trust in a relationship out of marriage because that person hasn’t decided to promise themselves to you forever. And the ultimate promise of love is the promise of forever in publicly giving your entire life to someone.

Take this seriously, young people. Please. I was not pure before I married Nick. And those moments of fault wrecked my self-confidence. They took pieces of me. Those boys didn’t give me love. They took a part of me that was meant for my husband. I walked away from sexual sin feeling more broken and less loved.

Wait. Stay pure for your future spouse. Pray for God to help you protect that part of your life. It’s SO special and so holy to save that part of yourself for the one you promise forever to.

Take it from the girl who messed up, and who was forgiven. Who now has the most beautiful, fulfilling marriage. Please take it from me.